Just Checkin In
Hi Folks just thought I would let you know where I am up to and I am very
surprised as I sure you all will be too.
I have just reached over my 3 week mark with some pretty severe cravings
which I managed as best I could with talking myself out of wanting to provide
the usual thing in my case a cig. So looked for alternatives to provide
which didn’t involve me smoking a cig. This was my best one of the night I
was going around shouting ‘IF I ALWAYS DO WHAT I’VE ALWAYS DONE I’M ALWAYS
GONNE GET WHAT I’VE ALWAYS GOT. IF I WANT TO GET SOMETHING DIFFERENT THEN I
HAVE TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. This has helped enormousy so off to bed
tonight with cravings pretty quiet.
Spent about an hour working on the lists you first gave us Steve and wondered
what the purpose of them is? I need to know that they have a purpose cos I’m
not a great list person and don’t want to feel that its been a waste of time
what I have done so far. Well thats me folks - Pam liked your article on
depression so filed it for further reading.
Nice talking to you ohter night Steve - sort of revised my position at work
which will remove a lot of the strength inconnection with the money issue so
don’ really need an abc now but I’ve got another one which is a bute and will
through that one at you tomorrow to see what you can come up with.
Hope all you quitters had a good haloween and didnt forget the treats for the
children and that those of you into playing the games associated with
halloween that you had a good time.#
Just Keep on quitting#
Namaste
Indi
January 26th, 2003 at 10:36 pm
Hiya Cat
Just read my own email and I must really have had mush brain as well as being
very tired last night when I wrote it - soooooo many spelling mistakes and
sooooo much bad grammar!!!
Never mind it made you laugh - and I am a little English lady all 5 2 of me
but don’t have a cockney accent (fortunately).
Woke up this morning feeling much better although did have some really
strange dreams all to do with smoking - not me actually smoking but more to
do with cost of smoking and research articles (strange).
Football was on TV last night (socker for you Cat) so I sat up in my office
getting on with my lists!
It was really difiicult to do - has anyone else found doing these lists
difficult?
Catch you all later as this is just a quick visit to check my email before I
get ready for work - its what I do with a cup of coffee these days instead of
having my coffee and cig then checking my mail - I have my coffee while I
check the mail.
Have a good smoke free day everyone.
Namaste
Indi
January 27th, 2003 at 5:51 am
Hi Steve
Thanks for the enlightenment about the lists - they were difficult to do but
they certainly made me think a lot so guess its a good idea.
Tried to get into spinchat last night but aol was being difficult again and
it took me so long to get online then I’d only be on a few secs and off it
would go again that I just typed a couple of emails and went to bed.
See you later - hope you had a good night.
Namaste
Indi
January 27th, 2003 at 7:16 pm
Hi Indi - your post is great. You sound so enthusiastic and positive
about where you’re at, and seeing results. ‘Working the quit’ pays
such dividends :))
I’ll try and get to Spinchat later, but I’ve got to work late tonight
on our helpline (the penalty for having had a lie-in this morning).
If it’s quiet I’ll see if I can sneak behind the Company’s firewall
and at least say hiya to you all …
Hope everyone’s had a good day today
take care
Pam
January 28th, 2003 at 4:33 am
….. I’ll always come to the same conclussions and (based on those
conclussions) I’ll always respond as I’ve aways responded. If I want to
get different responses then I have to think different thoughts.
Hi all,
I’ve been thinking about Indi’s ‘Doing things differently’ post. The
consequence of doing things differently is that we’ll get different
results. What about thinking differently? Indi, you sure seem to be doing a
lot of ‘different’ thinking. If I were to venture a guess, it would be
that your ‘different thinking’ has a lot to do with re-examining old
established thoughts/beliefs.
Regarding entries on our lists, aren’t reasons to quit actually
thoughts/beliefs? What about things we’ve said to ourselves i.e. “I really
need a cig to calm me down.” Aren’t those beliefs based on past experience?
I think it would be worthwhile looking at entries on our lists and see how
they measure up in terms of our current desires to succeed in the quit and
our expectations of different thinking patterns (ABCs).
Whole lot of thinking going on there. What are those thoughts?
What is the jist of them? Are they old patterns or new? The getting up,
showering, and getting dressed routines are perfect subject matter for
ABCs. Are you preparing any ahead of time or creating them in the moment?
Just as thinking or saying something and also writing it down will help to
better imprint it on our minds, so does the preparation of an ABC imprint a
rational pattern of thoughts that’ll kick in sooner and more smoothly when
their associated event happens.
Steve
www.cognitivequitting.com