Feelings v Emotions
Hi Steve
This is in response to your post on feelings - I think!
You know I have been struggling to identify feelings and even after I read
your post yesterday it still wouldn’t click but for some reason today I seem
able to understand what you were asking for (I think) - no doubt you will let
me know if I’m wrong.
Feelings going on in my body for past few days -
I’ve got a very cold icy feeling sort of like very open/wide from the tip of
my nose to the top of my chest. It feels sort of slippery.
It feels like I have got a rod sticking up my back going into my neck and
there is a great pressure on my shoulders, side of my neck and up into the
crown of my head.
Now I know that I cannot really put a label on these feelings and I know that
I cannot in all honesty attribute them to quitting smoking but guess that
when I did smoke any hint of these feelings would be a reason to light up.
So I guess that I have to accept that all of these feelings happen all of the
time to non-smokers as well as smokers and they are all just part of ‘being’
and ‘living’.
I’m not sure what I am rabbiting on about now cos in the middle of my writing
this I began to speak to my daughter and where (when I smoked) I could
concentrate on lots of things at once - now I can’t always concentrate on the
one thing.
But I know that will not last forever (well I hope not anyway) and I know
that smoking will not make it any better but I honestly don’t know how on
earth it used to seem better. No doubt someone will have an answer which
will help me on this one.
So thats it for now - if I have any more mind blowing revelations I’ll pass
them on for your perusal.
Happy quitting to all
Indi
March 2nd, 2003 at 5:25 am
Indi - I chatted with Steve last night and he said that we were right
on yesterday (with Pam’s help and confirmation) about the numbness of
feeling and being kind of in a spacey state of mind. He indicated we
had found ourselves on a plateau we’d reached thru practicing our
quit with cog thinking and when we reach a new plateau, we have to
learn how to deal with this new plateau all over again. It’s a lot
to learn so we’re kind of numbed out (almost on overload) by it all
til we learn to cope again. Another interesting thing he said is
that we have a tendency to concentrate on today or the immediate past
so if it’s not been a good day then we build our feelings on that.
We should think back the past few weeks and think of the positive
things that we’ve accomplished. So simple, yet so true. I’m sure I
haven’t quoted Steve word for word so may have messed up a bit but
this is what I got out of our conversation so it seems we’re still on
the right track!
Now, I AM going to lose my bloody job if I don’t get back to work!!!
(had to get something english in there and did you notice I got to
say loo earlier?)
- Cat