Hi Frank
Welcome to the group. I am really new here too and am finding great
suggestions and support happening here. You have really been doin
some work tonight! Looking forward to your posts! Terri
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April 18th, 2003 at 5:15 pm
My name is Lynne and I think maybe we are both at the same place in
our quit…. the beginning. I am also having difficulty in my quit
and tend to get very angry with myself.
Let me know how you are doing.
Lynne
April 19th, 2003 at 7:30 pm
Pleased to meet you, Lynne. Yesterday evening was when
I tossed out the cigs, and this time, I am truly finished
with smoking. Done. Good luck with yours!
A thought on anger: It weakens you, and anger turned
inward is depression. When you are angry, depressed,
and disappointed with yourself, the attitude that comes
into play is, “F*** it. I already screwed up, so I might
as well go all the way!” (followed by an angry drag on
the fag and a noisy exhale as you blow that cloud of
poison out)
I know the anger cycle. Been there, done that. It’s a
tough one. :-/
-Frank
April 23rd, 2003 at 1:23 am
Thank you Frank. I agree with this completely and believe that all anger
weakens us. At the very least, it adds stress and makes demands on our
resources.
I’ve seen many quitters choose to to be angry at tobacco companies. Their
belief being that that anger strengthens them. I’m not at all convinced
that’s the case. Anger, regardless of it’s source or target, generates
identical physical sensations and consequences. It’s exactly these
sensations that have been huge triggers all our smoking careers. So where
is the wisdom in intentionally being angry? Appears to me we only create
more stress that has to be ‘dealt with’. We don’t need to make quitting
harder.
Steve
www.cognitivequitting.com