new subject-failure
Hi Marde,
First of all, if I don’t do my school work and study for an upcoming
test and then fail the test, it doesn’t mean I’m stupid. It only means I
wasn’t prepared. Not studying may have been stupid, but my failing the test
does not mean I’m inherently unable to learn the material. The ‘voice’
that has always ‘told’ us when to smoke weilds great power because it was a
voice of truth. A cigarette, within the context of a smoker’s needs, is a
perfectly valid and accurate response. So if I haven’t addressed an
upcoming event and prepared some alternate statements for my ‘voice’, then
it will continue to speak what has always been truth and I’ll be trying to
‘hang on’. Even the strongest eventually tire of hanging. BTW, when it
comes to losing quits, I hold the record. So take a bit of time and lick
some wounds if you want, and please continue to think cognitively about
what you’re doing.
I’d really rather you didn’t. Keep reading. This stuff takes time to
become integrated into our thinking. Marde, please stay close to us.
Steve
www.cognitivequitting.com
April 28th, 2003 at 11:51 am
Marde,
Sorry I jumped to that conclussion. I was unfair.
If it was just a sudden unexpected moment that ‘tripped’ you, then try to
learn from it. Use that experience to ensure that that situation or
temptation won’t catch you again. We humans are a ‘trial and error’
species where learning is concerned.
Stick with us,
Steve
www.cognitivequitting.com
April 29th, 2003 at 6:42 pm
Marde, I’ve been there, done that. I blew
it at the four-week point of my quit, but
only for a couple of days, and then I was
back in the saddle again. I am choosing to
call it a slip and keep my stats and keep
going. It does take an awful lot to keep
picking yourself up instead of beating yourself
up. You are not a failure. Look at how much you’ve
accomplished. If you can, concentrate on what is
positive. You don’t have to let it all go.
-Frank