Comments on: Busy round here!!

By: addie_50

addie_50 — Sun, 11 May 2003 11:19:48 +0000

Isn’t this all part of the options. You know that smoking is an option
but you choose to not smoke. I think it’s great that you went through
such a stressful day all the way into the late afternoon before you
even thought about your options to deal with your stress.
You’ll have to email me tomorrow or IM me on what the p….d means.
Remember, I’m depending on you and Pam to teach me all the proper
English sayings.
into the bargain.
How about sitting with their Dear Hubby and watching the telly?
See what I mean!!! You certainly don’t need a drink and a smoke to
relax. Sit back, take a load off, drink that stuff you English love to
drink - tea, isn’t it? Do your yoga, whatever it takes.
- Cat

By: addie_50

addie_50 — Sat, 10 May 2003 13:35:04 +0000

OK, I’m obviously WAY behind in these posts (I’m kind of anal in that I
feel I have to answer at least half of these posts because what would I
do if everyone didn’t listen to ME!!!). So, I was thinking that I”ll
bet the 5:00 thing may be the low sugar / low energy thing that most
people experience in the late afternoon.
- Cat

By: hassan_11

hassan_11 — Wed, 07 May 2003 23:51:38 +0000

Hi Pat
Thanks a lot, you are so right. When I was watching TV thoughts were
drifting in and out of my head and I think really what was happening to me
this afternoon was the same thing that used to happen to me (and still does
sometimes but not as oftern) as when I quit drinking.
I used to get a thought like ‘oh I could murder a drink’ but then dealt with
it by recognising it for what it was. My hermy putting a thought in my head
and thoughts don’t have to be acted on.
This thought of ‘wanting to smoke’ was the same sort of thing. The stuff
about relaxing I think (and this is just off the top of my head) is that
because I am not smoking now I actually have more energy.
When I smoked I used to spend every evening after dinner in front of TV so
got quite hooked on all the soaps and used to go outside for my nic fix
during the adverts. I would go up to bed about 9.30 and watch TV in bed
until I fell asleep.

The only time this pattern deviated was at weekends when we would go out for
a meal or to a show.
So I’ve got it into my head now that unless I am in front of TV at 7pm and in
bed by 10pm I am not relaxing.
I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here but know its something about me
changing and as you said I need to give myself time to heal. When I quit
drinking I did spend a lot of time on the healing process but I also smoked a
lot.
Its crazy really cos when I did quit drinking I got into holistic medicine in
a big way and did lots of stuff with herbs, oils, relaxation, meditation and
stuff like that. Also went onto very healthy eating yet I was still
poisoning my body with all the stuff in cigs.
Under the illusion that ‘I’ve got to have something’!!!!!!
My head is cabbaged now so I’m off to bed and its almost 11pm
Goodnight All
Indi

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Mon, 05 May 2003 07:34:36 +0000

What’s happening at that time?
www.cognitivequitting.com

By: hassan_11

hassan_11 — Sat, 03 May 2003 11:07:59 +0000

Hi All
Well my ABC’s worked ok until about mid afternoon when all I wanted to do was
sit and inhale a cig and blow out the smoke.
I didn’t really have an urge or a craving it was all thinking, thinking how
nice it would be just to sit down and have a smoke - cos it was hectic.
I ended up working 3 and half hours later than usual and the glass fitter who
had been hectic all day too said to me. Indi if I didn’t drink I would get
p….d tonight, so I said if I didn’t drink I would join you.
So what do people do to ‘unwind’ when they don’t drink and have quit smoking
into the bargain.
I’ve come home, made dinner and read my posts, but its just not the same - I
know this is all my hermy talking and need to rethink and do some reading
from my print offs but really I can’t be bothered cos I feel as if all I am
doing is going to work and doing stuff for other people and not doing
anything for me - there just seems to be too much to do and not enought time

to do it at least not do all the things I want to do.
Need to do a course in time management I think!!!!
Anyway got that lot of my chest and am not going to smoke cos it wouldn’t
change anything and it wouldn’t be nice and it wouldn’ help me unwind so I’m
going to veggie in front of TV with my DH.,
Unless hermy gets really busy then I will come back online.
So take care all
Namaste
Indi

By: hassan_11

hassan_11 — Fri, 02 May 2003 13:23:15 +0000

Hi Lynne
Try posting some abc’s and see what Steve comes up with.
Indi