….ICQ keeps making my computer crash (sorry Steve, just as we were
about to chat) and my ISP e-mail programme doesn’t seem to be working
either. Talk about stress! Will probably try to re-install ICQ but
don’t know how I can resolve Outlook Express. I’m over in Spinchat
if anyone’s around, anyway.
See ya
Pam
Hi everyone
First I would like to say a big thank you to you all for the support
I have recieved from you all. I just don’t seem to be able to get my
head round this cognitive thinking, as much as I try.
So I am going to say goodbye for the time being - maybe I will be
back once I find the right way to approach my quit.
Thanks again
Lynne
Hi Steve
I’ve spent ages trying to do this abc - will you please have a look at it and
let me have your comments. Finding it really difficult to do in a clear
concise, way as in the examples, so your help would be appreciated cos don’t
want to carry on with the others I need to work on if I’m on the wrong track.
Maybe its procrastinating - but then thats one thing I’m good at.
Here goes
Acivating Even
Bosses putting too much work on me
Belief
They are treating me unfairly - putting unreasonable obstacles in my way.
I am unable to cope so they will think I am an idiot.
No one will like me if I can’t do what they want me to do.
Consequent Emotion
Anger
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Hi All
Been a bit quiet this week cos been working late and been too tired to go
online much - but have read all the posts and managed to catch up briefly
with a couple of you.
Been on another learning curve and realised lots of things about me - didn’t
bargain for all of this when I quit smoking - just assumed that once I got
over the ‘craves’ that would be it - I would become an ex-smoker who even 10
years down the line still wanted to smoke now and then!!!
Well now I know different cos here I am nearly 2 months down the line and
definately not WANTING to smoke but finding that there are all sorts of
feelings/wants that I need to identify and deal with - wierd.
The last time I tried to quit over a year ago I managed about 3 months with
the odd puff/cig here and there and not working on my brain at all and I was
on zyban all that time.
When I got to about where I am now (without one puff this time and working on
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Hi Folks,
I need some help.. after taking one of our members, I thought about my behavior.
I’m always quitting but keep lighting back up.. I want to stop this… and I
have started it about 15 minutes ago…
Can you please send me any web pages of reading or tips and such on how to stay
stopped..???
I already know about the Group page…
Thanks,
CalgaryMike
ICQ : 63173588
MSN: calgarymike1
Hi Cat!
You have some great holiday ideas! It is a really busy and
stressfull time. It’s crazy that it turns out that way when it is
supposed to be such a joyful time!
I to have eliminated many of the have to do things on my holiday list
over the years and try to focus on making people the tradition rather
than tasks and material things. It is really hard in our culture to
do that but I try to balance out how much time I have each year with
what I plan to do and it does help. Once I let go of thinking that
the holiday wouldn’t be the same without homemade cranberry sauce,
pies, etc etc then I found all kinds of new ways to celebrate! My
favorite year was when we rented a cabin for three days just outside
of Rocky Mountain National Park. I had ordered a pre-cooked
Christmas dinner from the local grocery store. We took a small
artificial tree, our presents and some board games and headed off for
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You Better Watch Out, You Better Not Cry, You Better Not Pout
Yeah, right!
Steve and I chatted about this a little bit last night. I wasn’t
surprised to see all the posts from earlier this week saying what a
rotten Monday everyone had. I had a rotten one too. Why did most of
us have such a bad start to the week? Now, this is with a little bit
of help from Steve. He said something that hit me between the eyes
when I stopped and thought about it. He said he has helped us (in some
cases, helping us) to come to our OWN conclusions in realizing that we
smoked in small part due to nicotine need, but we smoked in large part
due to life’s triggers, i.e, living life. What I liked about that
statement was the way he pointed out that we come to our own
conclusions on how we feel and how to deal with the triggers that we
associate with those feelings. The idea isn’t forced on us, it’s a
realization that we can use our own brains and think this problem
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We lost our cable modem for a few days and I have really missed
reading the posts here. It has taken me two nights to get caught up
for missing those 5 days! There were over a hundred posts! I really
realized how significant contact here is when I could not get here
for those days. Thanks for all the sharing everyone does here.
Terry
It’s 10.45pm (5.45pm EST) and I’m there, if anyone’s around.
Pam
Well using my new schedule which included a break of some sort about every
45 minutes, I had a great day yesterday. I got a lot accomplished and made
it through the day without any major cig craves. Rewarded myself in the
afternoon by decorating the living room with a lot of greens. Then came the
evening. Sit down, relax, and totally lose it! I couldn’t believe it. I
have had the evening stuff under control for weeks now. So I had to do a bit
more thinking. Christmas has always made me more than slightly crazy. I have
huge expectations and have trained the family to have them too. Of course,
part of that is my taking care of everything. Underneath everything else
that was going on Monday, I think was this stress. As long as I’m busy and
following the schedule I’m OK. But when I relax the stress kicks in. Now I
need to come up with some ABC’s to handle this particular stress.
Cat, if you have a cure for the Bah Humbugs, I would surely appreciate it.
Char