Just Found a Big One
While evaluating my weak spots and urges one biggie occured that
frightens me. My husband and I are doing great together. What
happens when he leaves for the day, or goes back to work. In the
past, when alone is when I have failed. I’m in such denial I even
forgot that stupid thought process which has destroyed my attempts.
Something to do with my teenage years “I can do what deviant behavior
I want” and noone knows. Or, when I was single and carefree I would
smoke pot everyday after work in my house… secret noone knew. Oh
grow up how stupid. I really need to envision this scenario and no
fall into that pattern. Since thinking of it I remember the feeling
so vividly… just one little trip to the store, who would know — I
will not do it. I need to go meditate on that one. Anyone have
similar wierd habits? Did you even understand my rambling? Thanks
for letting me. Gail
14 hours, 56 minutes and 18 seconds. 12 cigarettes not smoked, saving
$1.87. Life saved: 1 hour, 0 minutes.
September 2nd, 2003 at 8:06 am
— In CognitiveQuitSmoking@y…, “gailjmt” <todora@p…
Gail; prepare yourself for when hubby goes back to work. Do your
ABC’s and you’ll find you’re better able to handle the being alone
situation. Gotta go, snow is starting and you know if it snows down
here in the south, everything is a mess within short order!
- Cat
September 9th, 2003 at 6:56 am
Hi Kelley,
I’m not sure ‘healthy’ is the word I’d use. I think I’d lean toward
effective and/or constructive.
I think it’s excellent awareness of the consequences of a particular
action. Then you get to decide if you want to deal with those consequences
or not.
But what happens if you’re in such a mood that you don’t care about the
disappointment or dissaproval of someone else? Those times can come all too
often, specially early in a quit when our emotions seem to be so unstable
and ‘extreme’. I think that when push comes to shove, a quit has to be
based on what we want for ourselves.
I’d like to think more about this one. It’s an issue that’s central to
a quit …. “How do I refocus my thinking to the objective perspective that
allows me to make rational choices re: my goal of smoke free?”
Steve