Cognitive Quit Smoking

A. Laid off husband home now. Lying on couch, not chipping in!
B. My expectations build throught the day creating great anger when
I look at him, causing a possible explosion. To calm my nerves each
time I feel the slightest irritated I could smoke to settle them down
thus avoiding a major blow up.
C. When I begin to get pissed off, I’ll smoke a cig and calm down.
B1. I need to lower my expectations and realize that he isn’t used
to being home and doesn’t know my routine. He is also a
little “blue” for now. I need to remind myself of this throughout
the day and not let his presence bother me.
C1. I’ll be proud that he has not smoked through this occurrence,
I’ll breath deep and not be irritated.
One more (applies to two instances)……..
A. Volleyball Mon. nite and PTA Meeting Tues. nite. I’ve promised
people from both functions that I’d have cocktails after
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Ok - this is how it went……….
Been chatting quite a bit today with a few of you who seem to be
hitting a bit of a sticky patch - when quitting becomes ‘hard
work’and a lot of effort.
Reminding yourselves of your foundation statements and getting your
abc’s in place will pay huge dividends. Taking care of yourselves,
eating properly, taking breaks and getting rest will mean you
concentrate on the ‘thinking’ and the process of re-training Warren,
without having to battle other physical discomforts also.
Sorry if it sounds like a lecture but honestly, it works.
If you see me on icq, holler if you want to chat!
take care
Pam
PS the date - well, i’ll tell you more on icq……

Hello all
Well I said I would post my ABC that I did sometime at the beginning
of December. you will have to bear with me as it is a bit long winded
but it wasn’t an easy ABC to address as there were so many issues.
Please feel free to tweak it Steve [ I am sure I could have done with
a simplified version] but it has really helped me to address this
situation and things are ok for the time being.
A.
IN the evenings when I am at home, I have taken to shutting myself in
one room with my oil burner whilst my husband sits in the dining room
with a cigarette burning. We only speak to each other briefly these
days and although I am proud and happy with my quit most of the time,
some nights I feel stressed, anxious and restless.
B.
I know it is since I have quit smoking that I feel these emotions. I
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is there a chat planned today? I would like to try spinchat….I too am feeling
the blahs and just wonder if anyone has any ideas of how to overcome it…
Kelley

Been laughing about this for a while. thanks for this Sunday morning
chuckle. I can just picture your ‘enthusiasm’ about bundling up to go
slide on snow. :))
Still…. getting outside in the fresh air with some sun on your face will
help you feel a bit better.
I didn’t know your hubby is an electrician. Losing a job is an upset
granted, but a licenced electrician has a very marketable skill. Don’t know
what things are like where you are, but here in Toronto, electricians can’t
keep up with the demand.
when is a good time for you to get online and whine in chat? is there
a chat ’scheduled’ for today?
Steve
www.cognitivequitting.com

1 - You come home after a heavy week, all the lights in the house
fuse, the burglar alarm trips off
2) - You break a tooth the morning of the day you’re going on a hot
date
3) The dentist agrees to ’sort it’ but is grumpy as a grizzly bear
and jabs the needle into your gum and you hit the roof 2 seconds
later
4) the washing machine floods the kitchen
!!
Honest - didn’t think about lighting up once. Oh, and all those
irritations got fixed/mended, and me smoking wouldn’t have made a
scrap of difference.
More later
Pam

Hello Indi, and everyone else on this board.
I feel a bit like the cat creeping in and out but as I explained to
Pam before xmas I had to give priority of the computer to the two
daughters for studying but things are a bit better these days.
I am still busy with work and will be for the next three months but I
will make time to get back to the site most week-ends.
So just an up date on my quit and how it is going……
The last time I spoke to you all I was having a bad time accepting
having another smoker in the house [ Nov time] I did a lot of
thinking and did an ABC and read it over and over till I didn’t need
to read it any more… [ I will post it sometime over this weekend
for you all to Tweak and make suggestions] but I have to say even if
it is not accurate, it has worked really well for me and I am happier
than I have ever been with this situation. [ yes I would love my
husband to quit but I don’t rely on it anymore]
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Hi Cat,
I’m so relieved that if I piss you off, I’m out of range. Seriously though, while you may have some ‘flatware’ life issues to look
at, keep in mind that ‘over the top’ reactions are still very likely
fueled, at least in part, by recovery. Realistically, you may be looking at
another few months till your physiological recovery has stabilized to the
point that if you ‘lose it’, it’s probably not quit related.
ducking,
Steve
www.cognitivequitting.com

Yesterday-and I cannot hardly believe this-before I left for work, I
actually FORGOT to put my patch on!!!!! I won’t bore you with the
rest of the details after that, but, I smoked TWO cigs yesterday-one
in the morning, about 9:00, and another one before I left work,
around 2:15. Then, I did not smoke the rest of the evening, and this morning, I
made SURE that my patch is on!! (I won’t smoke with it on, too
scarey.)
What can I say? I am not wanting to start smoking again AT ALL; and
am just taking this ONE DAY AT A TIME…..something about this week,
I don’t know…..but it has been rough!
Last night, while I was working out on my “Power Rider” machine, IT
BROKE while I was up in the air, and I came down hard and landed on
my tailbone; now I can hardly sit, and when I do, I almost need help
getting up-sheesh. I know that I probably just bruised it, and all
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Hi!
Just wanted to introduce myself to all of you. I have visited the
cognitive quitting site many times and have recommended it even more
to others. I quit smoking 10/29/01, and have not had one puff since.
I can honestly say that I am feeling good, the quit is going well, and
I have the most positive attitude I have ever had in any other quit.
Thanks to ddsteve, and the cessation forum at about.com, I have
learned to pay attention to the process of quitting, and am actually
enjoying the ride, so to speak at this point!
Steve, you were actually one of the first people who responded to my
whining at the about forum, and helped me look at myself more
critically in terms of what sensations were really asking to be
addressed at a given moment. As smokers, it takes real effort to do
that, when the response for everything in the past was always to
smoke.
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