HELP a pregnant woman quit!!
hi all. i’ve joined the group because i’m desperate. what addict
isn’t desperate? uhg. problem with this one is i’m a pregnant
addict and now my addiction to nicotine isn’t just hurting me. i’m
going on 12 weeks now, that’s three months. i told myself i would
quit before the first trimester was over. i tried. twice. three
times. i tried ‘conscious smoking’ and found myself gagging through
each additional cigarette. my husband smokes, he also wants to quit,
but we keep buying packs of tobacco. it’s not enough that i have to
quit smoking because i’m pregnant, i’m a recent u.s. immigrant to
australia and i’m not happy here in the least, i want to go back to
the u.s. but i can’t take my husband with me. dealing with continual
stress, being newlywed (married january 2) and newly pregnant
(conceived january 8), i’m in a new country and ARGH!!! someone
please help me. i need some support. I DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE
ANYMORE. i know this. i can’t stop myself, am i weak???? what kind
of mother am i going to be???? if i cannot even do this one thing
for my unborn baby, how will i be able to do those things that take
even more sacrifice? I BELIEVE I CAN QUIT. i believe, with help,
with some effort and some folks pulling for me, i can get over this
and stop beating myself up!!!! i’m 33 now and i’ve been smoking
since i was 14, have quit four times, the longest time was a year, so
i know it is possible. help me make it possible for good, PLEASE!
thanks for letting a newbie rant…. ~dannye
March 3rd, 2004 at 8:41 am
— In CognitiveQuitSmoking@y…, “dinah_damage” <dinah_damage@y…
Well, I was desperate when I stumbled in here four months ago so I
know how you feel.
You’ve already received some good information. Read back on the
earlier posts and check out the cognitive quitting website. I’m
assuming that you will be quitting cold turkey since you’re pregnant -
? Have you got a doctor now in your new locale? Have you set a
quit date? What about a quit list - have you made one up yet? Very
important stuff when you’re starting out.
What is conscious smoking?
I’ve got to run…I’ll check back later, still trying to get caught
up on posts but I have to get home, out again, and then back on the
computer later tonight…
Hang in there, Dannye
- Cat
March 3rd, 2004 at 3:56 pm
Dannye, I’ve post two times so far to you and both time my posts have been lost.
So here goes again. This time I’m writing my
reply in my Note Pad, then doing a copy and paste so if it goes off into
cyberspace, at least I have a copy of it!
I was desperate too when I came here a little over four months ago. As far as
I’ve seen so far, you have gotten great advice as
far as going back and reading past posts. Also, you need to start thinking
seriously about a quit date. You might want to make a
quit list and establish a foundation statement. You can check out
cognitivequitting.com, if you haven’t already done so, to give you
a better understanding of cognitive thinking and how we apply it to our quits.
I realize because you’re pregnant you need to go ahead and make this commitment.
One thing that I firmly believe is that a quit
has a much better chance of sticking if you are quitting for yourself. Well,
you don’t have time to contemplate that. You have
another person to worry about now, your baby, so you might as well get on with
it. If you can make the commitment to quit at
least for the baby now, hopefully you can learn in the next few months on how to
stay quit for yourself as well.
I know that you must be feeling very lonely right now. Your circumstances make
you emotionally vulnerable. So I’m assuming your
hubby is from Austrailia. Is his family there? Anyone there to offer you
support?
Let us hear from you. Please keep in touch. Make out that quit list at least
(it’s simply a list of reason why you feel you should
quit smoking).
- Cat