Where did everyone go?? (no text)
Here and wishing you well, Carla………(and Marde)
Son took me shopping today………..
EEEEELLLKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK
He had my car………………and I let him know………………….
( I could smell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!))))))))))
LOL!!!!!!!!!! Great moment for me…………..
Could not believe after all the years of smoking………….
That I could complain!!!!!!!!! :))))
He and his wife on 2nd quit attempt …………………..
All I have between me and a cig is my
basic self-agreement…………
I can choose to smoke
or I can choose to live
and I choose to live………..
Jean
April 15th, 2004 at 6:06 am
April 15th, 2004 at 1:33 pm
Thanks so much, Steve………..
LOL
I shall continue my struggle -
I have had a hard time with cog quit (a feeling that everyone may have
access to a secret to which I had yet to earn admittance)
<I am still having great difficulty trying to create those ABC’s
And I am aware that having to choose between quitting or living may seem
past comprehension to a lot of young people……………the idea was
beyond my understanding for years……………
LOL - (yet once upon a time I was a psych major)
……………………………………….
Jean
April 15th, 2004 at 8:28 pm
Hi Carla, and all - the visitors go home later today, and I’ll be
able to get back online for more than a few mins at a time!
Pam
— In CognitiveQuitSmoking@y…, “carlacornwall”
April 17th, 2004 at 4:17 pm
Have to admit to being a Royalist ………………
(family from Lancashire
God save the Queen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jean
April 18th, 2004 at 6:47 am
Peg Putzbach wrote:
………………………………….
Thanks much, Peg, for your response………….
Not sure what happened on the week-end -
I really had a downer!!!!!!!!
Seem back to normal today -
Still smoke free………..
Jean
April 18th, 2004 at 1:42 pm
Katie;
Damn, I hate those 3’s. I think I had a worse time in my 2nd and 4th
months of quit simply out of pure stubborness. I wish I could tell you
that I positively know that your quit will get better, but all I can
tell you is that all the ups and downs have been worth it for me.
During the really bad days, I would think about how I smoked for over
30 years and how unfair it would be to myself to not at least give
myself a few more days/weeks/months of trying to relearn how to live a
healthier life. Because that’s what I feel like I’ve had to do and to
a certain extent, I’m still learning.
The benefits are not smaller, they just seem that way because they’re
becoming a part of your life, this is your new way of living and you’re
becoming accustomed to those benefits. And the benefits are not just
the way you feel healthier (and sometimes it does take a year or more
to realize some health benefits), remember the other benefits of
quitting - where’s that quit list? I seem to remember someone saying
“If other people can learn to lead satisfying lives without smoking, so
can I”
One thing on which I think you are on the money - the earlier ABC’s do
help you through the rough parts later. You’ve practiced the ABC’s and
What If’s enough to help you get through the rough patches now at this
stage. Use them, Katie, they will work for you. And as you run into
new circumstances, write some new ones out. Sit down and write them
out everytime you realize that you have a craving and you don’t already
have an ABC for it. Start with that activating event and go from
there.
I’ll check in again tomorrow - it’s late here now and I’ve got to get
to bed. Hang in there, Katie. This, too, will pass.
- Cat
April 19th, 2004 at 6:49 pm
Hi Katie,
just a ramble.
Sorry you had a lousy time of it. I wonder why it is that so many of us
seem to hit a wall at around 3 mos quit. The novelty is gone? We’re tired
of ‘working it’? Just plain worn down? I wonder if we start to ease off
our quit efforts sometime around 2 mos. And then go through a period where
we’re intellectually we’re aware that there was something that worked (ABCs
and lists etc)and it’ls gotten us to this stage of the quit, but we’ve
stopped actively doing them. We’re taking a small ‘rest’. Yet we come up
against life. And life seems to be just one pile after another. We aren’t
ready to give up the our ‘rest’ so we clench out teeth and dig in our
heals, and we’re really mostly just ‘hanging on’. I know that anytime I’m
involved in a change and I let it get to the point that I’m ‘hanging’
instead of being actively involved in self conscious thinking, I find
myself far more stressed and drained than I would be if I was involved in
frenetic actively in an interesting and productive area. Did that make any
sense?
I don’t know if any of that applies to your experience of the past about
2 weeks. The dynamics and patterns of a quit are so very similar for so
many quitters that there must be some common ‘rules’. Yet other than
observing similar patterns over and over, it still eludes me what the
‘rules’ are. The previous ramble was just speculation on why the 3rd month
time zone is so often just what you experienced.
I think that one thing we can take away from a ‘dip in the road’ is the
understanding that we can get through a rough stretch without smoking, that
it’s acceptable and appropriate to feel the discomfort physically and
emotionally and still make rational choices.
Maybe feelings give life color and richness while it’s our thoughts
that give it direction.
Katie, I’m glad to hear you’re feeling upright again.
Steve
April 20th, 2004 at 2:04 am
“Want to reply but hoping I can catch you for a whine session, want to?” Gail
“I’m all over the whine session - —– If we can work out the logistics,
let’s do!!” KatieLou
OH! OH! can I do too? pleeeeze?
I can get to a computer from about 4PM EST m-f, and weekends just about
anytime. what hrs on what days are good for ppl?
April 20th, 2004 at 9:19 am
-Caught the funeral on TV, very moving.
-I spent a long time in Israel, have a lot of friends there. I know I’m not
fully aware of the extent to which the midlle east horror has me wound up.
-I’m still wearing my fat man’s pants. I didn’t always.
-This weekend is predicted to be the nicest so far, and it’s rather overdue
to suit my tastes.
Jean, hope this coming week looks better than the last, and that the one
after is the best yet.
Steve
Steve
April 20th, 2004 at 11:49 pm
Sunday would work for me. Times?
AS for week day evenings, Katie see if you can reserve even 30 minutes on
the puter on a night. I’m sure a few of us can hook up.
April 21st, 2004 at 7:04 am
There you go Katie. Increase exercise, be more vigilant re: what and
when you eat, and let “the mister” live one more day.
Weight is a critical issue with almost everyone and CAN NOT be ignored.
You’re addressing it properly and you’ll see results. My guess is that the
weight control will actually be a secondary benefit while your improved
state of mind will be the primary benefit.
Steve
April 21st, 2004 at 2:31 pm
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Hi, Katie…………….
Not sure how it might help, but I am mountain time as well………..
Jean - and holding 1-1
April 22nd, 2004 at 12:03 pm
I may be out for a while on Sun afternoon, getting some sun and touching
the wind. i’ll definately be here by 4PM est (9PM Brit time).