Tea with MIL - this time at her house - another ABC

WTG Carla :)

2 Responses to “Tea with MIL - this time at her house - another ABC”

  1. Neva Marjory Says:

    Hi again Linda. Glad you’re reading over at
    www.cognitivequitting.com - and I’m sure Steve will be here before
    long to welcome you aboard.
    I quit just about 14 months ago, having tried many times over the
    years and failing spectacularly each time after a few days of
    hanging in and gritting my teeth - and not a lot of thought about
    what I was doing and how I was doing it. I found cognitive quitting
    not long before my quit date, or rather Steve found me in a chatroom
    (over at About.com) where I’d been picking everyone’s brains about
    how they ‘did it’. Cog quitting clicked with me straightaway - this
    was a very different way to quit. I started thinking about why,
    when and where I smoked so I could learn more about my smoking
    behaviour, and with Steve’s support learned to break those old
    associations and put new behaviours in place. At 14 months I truly
    have no interest in smoking anymore. Occasionally something will

    happen and a cig thought will come to mind, but all I ever think now
    is ‘oh, i used to smoke in this situation, but no longer want or
    need to any more’.
    Steve asked me yesterday what it felt like being quit for 14 months.
    I realised it just feels very normal, very ‘me’. It sometimes feels
    so ordinary in some ways - but then again I often think ‘wow - I did
    this, I never believed I’d be in this place’ !
    The main difference this time is that I’ve been actively involved in
    managing my quit. Every other one followed the same old pattern, so
    no wonder the results were the same every time.
    Have a look in the files section on the main page, and ask
    questions - you’ll find we jump in with our stories and advice as
    much as we can. Oh - and you’ll get homework here, and I’ll bet
    you’ll be getting your first assignment soon ;) bye for now
    Pam

  2. Neva Marjory Says:

    Carla - you handled MIL superbly. Well done to you! But I’d think
    twice about going there for a while until she learns a few manners
    and how to treat family guests.
    Pam
    — In CognitiveQuitSmoking@y…, Carla Sutton <carlacornwall@y…
    MIL saga.

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