Comments on: hi :)

By: Araceli Cherry

Araceli Cherry — Mon, 05 Jun 2006 04:48:22 +0000

Steve and I will be in the chatroom on Steve’s site www.cognitivequitting.com
tomorrow. (Click on the ‘chat’ link on the main page) We’ll be there 1pm MST/
4pm EST/ 9pm Brit time. I hope some of the new members will be able to join us,
and get you started on a cognitive quit.
Pam

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Mon, 04 Oct 2004 13:59:29 +0000

OK now I’m not confused. Glad it helped

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Mon, 04 Oct 2004 06:44:34 +0000

OK now I’m conused…. which message?

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Sun, 03 Oct 2004 08:52:25 +0000

It was to me, in response to my post, Harper.
And thanks for that chat, Steve Jan

By: pilar60

pilar60 — Sun, 03 Oct 2004 04:01:05 +0000

Sorry guys, I meant to send this to Steve privately. He’d helped me in a chat
a couple of weeks ago, and I thought he might’ve been checking in to see how
it was going.
Again, sorry for clogging your mail boxes!
Have a good day,
Harper

By: pilar60

pilar60 — Sat, 02 Oct 2004 20:46:10 +0000

Hi, Steve,
Was this message to me directly, or to the group? Just asking cause it was
sent on Monday, so I thought it might not be about the Sunday chat…
My personal favorite quote of yours so far, and I believe I”ll tatoo it on my
forehead, is “I never feel as foolish as when I trip over something I already
knew about.”
Have a good day,
Harper

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Wed, 29 Sep 2004 18:00:55 +0000

Hiya,
Would be good to catch up soon, chat can sort things pretty quick
sometimes.
Still up?

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Wed, 29 Sep 2004 10:38:35 +0000

Apologies for having to leave chat so quickly yesterday without
saying goodbye to people. It just wasn’t a good day, all in all,
and I had to leave to sort a few things out. Sorry.
Janine

By: jeffry_10

jeffry_10 — Sat, 17 Jul 2004 20:59:11 +0000

I think it’s like anything else…it’s so much easier to practice on someone
else! Besides it was a good way to let those around me know I need to stop
and think about my responses now instead of just emotionally react to
situations.
ps the horse was brought over to our house to exercise in our arena….he
still needs a little practice with his ABC’s bobbie

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Sun, 04 Jul 2004 03:57:08 +0000

Hi Bobbie,
At 11:25 AM 6/3/2002 EDT, you wrote:
“…. my first thought wasn’t “I could use a cig” but rather, “A few
months ago, I would feel I needed a cig, WHY?”. I puzzled this out for a
few minutes and
then came to the conclusion that …..”
If your first thought was “A few months ago, I would feel I needed a cig,
WHY?”, did “I could use a cig” ever become a thought? I doubt it. You’re
doing ABCs in your head and that’s fantastic. That’s pretty much what we
all do once we’ve gotten a handle on ABCs (here it comes…) and the way to
get a handle on them is to first write them out on the puter or on a tree,
up to you. Seeing it in front of us, the mechanics of typing/writing it all
out, this all comes together to imprint the ABC template on our minds.
Bobbie, you’re doing great if you’ve developed that awareness of how
you’re thinking in the moment. You can use the same format to look at

events that will happen in the future. Think of it as just some more mental
ABCs. I don’t know much about horses other than that ppl ride them and at some
point the tail lifts and out drops horse poo. But I’m guessing that as a
rule, tone of voice, your ‘vibes’ will have an effect in some way on a
horse’s response to you. When we ABC something out loud, there’s a cadence,
there is sureness and simplicity. When an ABC is all laid out, we’re
balanced internally. So I wonder if helping a horse ABC his behavior might
not reap some sort of change? or is that just a load of horse poo? Steve