Cognitive Quit Smoking

Hiya well I found it thanx to ukpam. I have been quit for 106 days
now…been through the mill and back . Am a member of quitnet but
look forward to being in this club also…
~~sue~~

Hi everyone
Im at 72 days now, just came over from quitnet.
So far my quit is going well, Im reaching the time that I replapsed
before so thats kind of scary, and I know this time I’ll have to face
the addiction again, only this time I want to win.
Anyway thats where I am, really glad to be here..
caisy

This month’s are :-
UKKatie - 8 months on the 1st
Gail - 8 months on the 2nd
Carla - 5 months on the 3rd
Peg - 7 months on the 3rd
Indi - 11 months on the 11th
Cat - 11 months today
Char - 1year 1 month on the 18th
Anita - 1 month on the 18th
Jan - 4 months on the 18th
Marde - 9 months on the 22nd
Me - 19 months on the 24th
…..and no doubt lots more milestones too, I’ve lost track of all the
dates! Well done everyone!
Pam

I wasn’t sure what to call this post - it could turn out to be a
mini ramble so hope you’ll bear with me. I wondered if anyone
could identify with some of my thoughts
I’ve been quit a few weeks now (nearly 4) and already its feeling
very normal not to smoke. that’s not to say there aren’t times a
cig thought will come along, but it just never makes sense any more
to light up. I said to Steve when he and I were chatting yesterday
evening that … ” I keep waiting for ’something’ to happen. .its
just as if i’m leading up to something but i don’t know what. the
days roll by…i can’t explain it very well” Steve’s explanation
made a lot of sense to me: he was suggesting that, as I’ve been
very actively involved in this quit process - the awareness, the
abc’ing etc - it seems to me that it must `reach some point’, that
it feels like it must be going `somewhere’. Maybe I spent too many
years marking/punctuating all the points in my day with a smoke - a
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Hi,
Can people stop using my (personal) disclosure to hang their posts
off? If your tongue is not black, has never been black, (apart from
fruit consumption) then give me a break - start a new thread.

Hello everyone
Im fairly new to this.Im a 34 male that is married and have 1 child
and have been smoke free for 1 month and 1 day.It has been one of the
hardest things i have ever done in my life and their isnt a day that
goes by that i dont crave.Well thats all for take care Lee

We had a minor falling out about the dark side/light side of the
mirror. I t wasn’t even that really but you know what I mean.
Preamble. I had been trying to stop smoking for over two years. I
can hardly believe that now why was it SO HARD? And it was SO
HARD. It was. I read all the literature I deemed relevant. I tried
to stop, and I’d typically cave in about 8 p.m. with a `thank god for
that’. But whatever it takes to quit, it doesn’t matter. The trick
is to make you take that leap of faith. You have to believe it. And
then it works. And the opposite is true. If you don’t believe it,
it doesn’t. If you’re quitting because you think you should, or
because somebody else thinks you should, then you’ll fail.
Preamble no. #2. After a couple of years trying to quit, for
Christmas last year I got a black spot at the back of my tongue.
It was my Christmas Present from the tobacco companies. I was
appalled. Over the next couple of months, it got worse. My face
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…. 5 months quit on the 3rd, and I forgot. Steve just asked
me ‘how long’ and I couldn’t remember….!!
Rehi to those that remember me, and hi to the new ones in the
group. I’ve hardly posted in ages - just ‘getting on with it’ and
dealing with things here at home, but hopefully now I’ll be able to
get more involved in the group again soon.
To the newbies - as others have said, do the work and do those
abc’s. As I’ve discovered recently, those tools you develop in a
cog quit truly do help you to deal with life very differently.
more next time, its bedtime…..
Carla

That’s a good point, Gail, but I tended to handle my anger
differently. I am sitting here picturing myself out in the garage or
on the deck smoking a cig while angry. I can’t see myself
thoughtfully smoking, trying to work out how to make the situation
better. Typically, when I was angry I would grab a smoke (or 2 or
3) to remove myself from the situation (was it an excuse to smoke?)
and I would proceed to feed my anger by pacing back and forth in one
of my isolated smoking areas. It was my way of not facing up to what
was making me angry or frustrated. Now I realize how I must have
looked to my family. Every time something happened to make me angry
or frustrated or terribly sad, I ran outside to smoke… all they
saw that I kept running away from the issue (and them), hoping a
solution would be found without me.
- Cat

Hi all who remember me and those who are new. I, like probably
several others , quit writing when I had a total relapse. The shame
is hard even though the support is here and I had such incredible
support. I still believe in Steve’s program and am back to do it
again. I am just about through day 3 of my new quit. Some of us just
need to kick ourselves in the head a few more times than others
before we get it.
I remember Steve and several of the others proclaiming that I had
mastered the concepts of cog quit early on. I guess I did get it and
I did practice it quite successfully for awhile. My downfall was
blocking out my ABC’s and just giving in to pure emotion and feeling.
Very much like impulsive buying at the supermarket. I just gave in to
the impulse and then allowed the “lies” to myself to build to the
point where I had justified smoking again. It’s been a very tough
battle to get back to the point of a true quit and it’s tough.
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