abc question?
a. I’m tired, feel depressed
b. a cig would have fixed this once, I know now it cant but still
if I had one here in front of me I would want to light it up (I don’t
want this)
c. given a lighter, I would smoke. (this is not a solution)
b I didnt get enough sleep, there was an earthquake and it scared me and I ended
up staying up longer and sleeping less and not as well. I feel just the oppisite
as I did when it happened, then just knotted up and now limp, like a ragdoll,
I’m probably still reacting to that or recovering from it, that much stress
takes a chunk out of a person.
maybe I can eat something and see if I dont feel more energy, then if I dont
feel better still, call it a early night and spend a good deal of it relxing and
watching tv.
maybe a real soak instead of just the shower, that way I’ll be better able to
deal with anything else that may come up, and cuz Im tired I know I’m leaving
myself open to problems. even in the first b I cant write like i belive a cig
is going to help me cuz I dont, and I know in this b that is hasnt changed,
there is nothing about how I feel right now that smoking will solve, ten minutes
from now I would have lost everything.
c. I’m going to eat, and relax in front of the tube for a while, soak in a
little while.
then sleep again if I need to
thats just the abc
the question is, what do you do in the first “b” and “c” when you no longer
believe
that a cigarette would ‘fix’ the problem?
caisy
February 26th, 2005 at 4:16 pm
Don’t smoke? Enjoy that you don’t think a cig will ‘fix the
problem’? I’m not too clear why there’s a question.
Maybe move on to the second stage of ABCing … where you don’t really
need a separate ABC for would have been back as a smoker. Simply do one ABC
for the situation and you include the ‘old statement’ within the B where
it’s immediately refuted.
Steve