And Another Thing…
There was something said, i heard it, forget who said it, but now I repeat
it also,
something to the effect that Warren is not a nicodemon
and infact doesnt like being called a nicodemon
because its an insult,
that can’t be correct.
its not Warrens job to get insulted or to care
what hes called, its only his job
to make sure the machinary that makes us function,
the automatic stuff runs smoothly, and when something is out of place to
find the correct widget to use, to put things back in
alignment.
It has to be a function of the higher brain to “care”
about self or some part of the overall self being called one
thing or another. sure its an insult, but not to Warren,
its an insult to my higher brain.
thats the part where the belief system lives.
how would you know that nicodemon or turdbrain is even
an insult if you hadn’t learned that some where along your
journey through your life?
Am I getting too technical here? if so I’ll shut up.
ok forget it.
caisy
March 30th, 2005 at 9:48 pm
Warren whispers. That’s what he does. That’s his job. That’s his only
If you haven’t realized yet, Warren isn’t the sharpest knife in the
job.
And then there are Warren whispers which are the actual things that
Warren whispers. Things such as “you feel tired, a cig makes that
feeling go away”, “you feel tense, a cig makes that feeling go
away”, “you are out of the dentist office and feel relief, a cig =
relief”, …. those are routine Warren whispers. When Warren
whispers, there is only an association. His job is to recognize a
physical sensation and to associate, from experience, an appropriate
response. That’s Warren’s job, his only job. Warren has a job, but
NEVER an agenda. Having an agenda would imply he has some sort
of ‘overview’ or ‘perspective’. He has none of that. All he cares
about is his job of recognizing a sensation and associating a
response. Worry about something and get tense muscles, he’ll
recognize the tension and associate a cig response. Work hard all day
with little rest or sustenance, get fatigued, Warren will recognize
the sensations of brain fog and a generally pooped body and associate
a cig response. Eat spicy salsa, Warren will recognize a numb mouth
and burning throat and probably associate a gallon or two of water or
a couple of cold beers.
drawer. He’s pretty much a one trick pony, remarkably good and
consistent at the performance of his one trick. He doesn’t see
smoking as anything other than an appropriate and proven response to
any number of physical sensations. Bottom line is that Warren
doesn’t care if we smoke or not. He doesn’t care if we smoke, spit
sunflower seeds, or stand on our heads as long as the action
addresses the perceived sensation. Teach him different responses and,
as long as the new responses are ‘appropriate’ to the relief of the
sensation, he’ll happily carry on associating while caring not at all
what the specific association is. You must keep in mind however, that
Warren is a bit ‘challenged’ in that he’s a bit slow to accept
change. As you train him to make new associations, he’ll tend to
return to old patterns. You need patience and a bit of perseverance.
Don’t get angry or upset with him and don’t call him names. Aside
from the fact that he’s not a demon and doesn’t want to ‘trick’ you,
he doesn’t understand your anger and it will only make him confused,
upset, and obstinate. Getting angry with a moron gets you absolutely
nowhere. Warren will respond best to a firm but gentle hand.
ABCs will offer him new choices for association. Remember, Warren
cares only that the association is to some response that ‘works’.
Keep pointing the way for him till he learns the new patterns and
he’ll take over and once again be a most reliable, consistent, and
dependable whisperer.
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