Comments on: Need for acceptance ABC

By: Ned Bambi

Ned Bambi — Sat, 23 Apr 2005 10:06:20 +0000

Dear Susan,
I am looking into a new career and I am 48. I had an injury on the
job…but it only allowed me to look at what I really want to do with my life.
My cousin went to med school at 40. He was a cop. Now, he’s a “doc”! My
grandmother went to nursing school at 45.
Age usually isn’t an issue except for when you look at retirement. How close
are you now? Do you have a pension you might lose?
Just remember, they cannot take education away from you!
I’m new to the group so if anyone wants to catch me up briefly…it can be
a challenge reading back posts! And I haven’t put my smokes down yet. On my
way, but not there, yet. Sitting at the computer is a trigger for me. Time for
more lollipops!
joni

By: janett_14

janett_14 — Sat, 23 Apr 2005 00:17:14 +0000

Thanks Katie,
For years I thought of smoking as a dirty little physical addiction.
I’d heard the psychological and emotional (and spiritaual) aspects
mentioned but never gave them much thought… certianly never applied
them to me. It’s wonderful to finally start living and growing again.
I’ve got a major issue I’ve been trying to ignore for a few years…
job dissatisfacation. I don’t want to make any hasty moves (I tend
to be hasty) but I need to deal with it. You mentioned going through
some major life events… career change wouldn’t be one of them would
it?
If anyone else has gone through a career change in your mid-life (I’m
40) or has any thoughts on the topic I’d be very interested in
hearing from you.
Sincerely,
Susan

By: janett_14

janett_14 — Thu, 21 Apr 2005 19:17:36 +0000

Thanks Steve,
Somewhere I read that quitting smoking is more than quitting
smoking. It sure has been for me (this time). In the past when I
tried to quit I’d squeeze my eyes shut and wait for the urge to
pass… needless to say I was miserable for months. I’m so glad I
found you guys!
Susan

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Thu, 21 Apr 2005 14:44:54 +0000

Hi Susan,
First of all, your ABC is excellent and I can’t see anything that I’d
add to it. Second, yes it is a complex issue and not easily simplified
within the ABC template. And third, you’ve discovered that the ABC thinking
has more than just quit smoking applications.
The ABCs are in fact a tool commonly used in most cognitive therapies.
They are a clear and concise way to illustrate and examine behavior that is
problematic or undesirable. There have been many cog quitters before you
who have found that cog thinking has helped them address issues that
transcend quitting.
Looks to me as though you are very well on your way.
Steve