Comments on: ABC for having visitors

By: Raleigh Missy

Raleigh Missy — Sun, 29 May 2005 01:33:42 +0000

Carmen,
that’s a good ABC. I’d change it just a bit though.
B1 contains ALL our ideas about the event A. C1 contains ONLY the option
you decide to use. B1 may contain many ideas for dealing with the
situation, but you may decide to use only a coulpe, they are what go in C1.
A - My husbands family is coming over ( we are all together 11) my
apartment is small so it will be very noisy and lots of stress.
B - I need some time to relax, I know a smoke will help and get me
relaxed and calmed down.
C - I go to the Balcony and lit up and smoke
B1 - nope a smoke would not help anymore as I just hate the taste of it
and secondly my family knows I quit so if I go out and smoke I will see
long faces and have to answer lot’s of questions that is not going to help
me dealing with the situation
- go in the bathroom and put cold water in my face, take some deep

breath and stretches and just try to relax for some view minutes
- if my hubby goes at the balcony for his smoke ( he smokes ciggars,
no danger for me) I can go out too and enjoy the cold air and enoy the nice
look of the snow and actually can smell the winter.
Carmen you might add….
- I can take breaks to rest for a moment and collect my thoughts, to
think about how I’m controlling this situation.
I can drink my juice for energy. I can stick my head out the door and
get some deep breathes of that horrid freezing arctic air … ( oops
sorry, that’s my ABC got carried away) deep dreathes of the nice cold
winter air.
C1- will contain 2 or 3 options that you think will be most effective.
You might use all of them, but you usually won’t need them all.
Steve

By: Dino Cannon

Dino Cannon — Sat, 28 May 2005 18:47:23 +0000

Carmen,
that’s a good ABC. I’d change it just a bit though.
B1 contains ALL our ideas about the event A. C1 contains ONLY the
option you decide to use. B1 may contain many ideas for dealing with
the situation, but you may decide to use only a coulpe, they are what
go in C1.
A - My husbands family is coming over ( we are all together 11) my
apartment is small so it will be very noisy and lots of stress.
B - I need some time to relax, I know a smoke will help and get me
relaxed and calmed down.
C - I go to the Balcony and lit up and smoke
B1 - nope a smoke would not help anymore as I just hate the taste of
it and secondly my family knows I quit so if I go out and smoke I will
see long faces and have to answer lot’s of questions that is not going
to help me dealing with the situation

- go in the bathroom and put cold water in my face, take some
deep breath and stretches and just try to relax for some view minutes
- if my hubby goes at the balcony for his smoke ( he smokes
ciggars, no danger for me) I can go out too and enjoy the cold air and
enoy the nice look of the snow and actually can smell the winter.
Carmen you might add….
- I can take breaks to rest for a moment and collect my thoughts,
to think about how I’m controlling this situation.
I can drink my juice for energy. I can stick my head out the door
and get some deep breathes of that horrid freezing arctic air … (
oops sorry, that’s my ABC got carried away) deep dreathes of
the nice cold winter air.
C1- will contain 2 or 3 options that you think will be most
effective. You might use all of them, but you usually won’t need them all.
Steve