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OK, my nose works. How do I turn it off??

This isn’t quite cog-quit related, but I need some help badly, and I
don’t know who else to ask!
As some of you know, I quit and hubby kept smoking. It’s not as bad
as I was afraid it might be… we’ve always gone out to the garage,
and the ashtray out there has proved to be more of a deterrant than a
temptation.
The problem is, after an evening of smoking in the garage, by the
time we go to bed, he reeks. The stale smoke in his hair and whatnot
is far worse than the dirty ashtray! Being in bed with him is bad
even when I have my back turned - face to face is almost unbearable.
I have vowed that I will not nag at him or try to get him to quit,
but I really, really need to say something to him about this. Trouble
is, he’s very sensitive to any perceived criticism, and I just don’t
know how to say anything without either making him feel awful or
starting a fight (or both). Please… can anyone give me a nice, non-

offensive way to tell my spouse that he smells so bad I can’t stand
being in the same bed with him?? (LOL!! But it’s no joke! Help!)
Nyniane

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2 Responses to “OK, my nose works. How do I turn it off??”

  1. Raleigh Missy Says:
    June 19th, 2005 at 7:57 am

    non offensive?? :)) right.
    Saw this on ‘Will and Grace’ the other night, Karen’s advice re: effective
    communication…. you say to him “Dear, I love you and only want the best
    for you… but if you don’t shower and wash your hair before you come to
    bed I won’t have sex with you.”
    Seriously, you’ve got to broach the subject, maybe explain that your sense
    of smell is getting such that …. if he doesn’t shower and wash his
    hair…. you won’t have sex with him.
    Seriously though…. you will have to talk to him.
    Steve

  2. Levi Margeret Says:
    June 21st, 2005 at 12:00 pm

    Okay, I talked to him (actually not TOO far off from your Will and
    Grace suggestion. LOL!) He took it very well - guess I gotta give the
    guy more credit; he *has* quit a time or two himself. :-) Anyway,
    thanks to both of you for letting me know that it was okay — I was a
    little worried that in complaining I’d just be being oversensitive,
    which is something I *really* want to avoid.
    Nyniane

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