Hi Sandy,
you asked:
“Is thinking about it more stressful than actually doing it?”
Absolutely and always. The anticipation of what’s always been a very
uncomfortable experience is brutal. But if you’re doing the work and have
prepared some ABCs to take Warren in hand, you’ll do fine once you start
the quit.
Steve
My condolences to you Carol. It just isn’t easy to go through what
you are going through. Do know that posting what you have, gives so
many people the strength and courage to go on successfully as you
are.
After reading your post, the post I just wrote (on my weekend) makes
me feel a little embarassed. And I think it is good to get some
things in perspective, while it may be monumental to me at the time,
I wonder how much I create the molehill into a mountain. I think I
shall work on that thought with the ABCs that have helped us so much.
Thank you for post Carol and know that your grief is shared and you
are in my thoughts. donna
ps. Have you joined a grief group? I have found that to be of help
in my case in a caregiver group.
Well Steve, The first 50 minutes of our trip this weekend was
challenged in a “high way” for me and was wondering about when the
pleasantly surprised feeling was going to pop in, as we crawled our
way through traffic and made a half mile on the “highway” in 30
minutes. Apparently, waiting in traffic is not my strength. But my
husband didn’t make me walk and spent the rest of the 50 hours of
the weekend ‘pleasantly surprised’. My animosity toward negative
feelings with non=smoking- in-laws were at a low, in fact, (even
though I love my in-laws, there are a few I don’t like to well)- I
found the few that I don’t like to well actually weren’t to bad.
SOOOOOO… I AM WONDERING about the effects of smoking on
relationships?? or was that just a fluke, time will tell.
At any rate, I wanted to let you and all know that it was not as bad
as I was thinking it might be, and I don’t get the “I want a cig
thought”, but I do get the “What is it that I want thought”. I
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Steve - I tried to send this to the group site but “unable to deliver”
for why I don’t know. forward on if you feel appropriate.
Hello everyone and welcome to all the new people.
I feel as if I were back at the beginning. I’m now 5+ months
cognitive quit and have until now been very calm and comfortable. I
comfortably went through a difficult move but before I could get
unpacked and settled, my mother-in-law passed away. Since then I’ve
not been handling my cognitive quit well. Between my grief (she and I
were very close), the reincarnation of grief over my own mother’s
death only 2.5 years ago, driving 1200 miles, hellish family dynamics,
husband’s parkinson’s disease, decisions to make, fatigue, etc., etc.,
I lost my calm and control. Instead of ABC’ing and taking charge of
my responses, I’ve not been strong enough to overcome the old
responses. I actually tried to smoke a cigarette - didn’t work - it
just wasn’t what I needed. I’ve tried to examine my physical state -
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How is everyone?? kind of quiet in here figured I’d rattle some pots
and pans around and wake everybody up!!!
Seriously tho, how’s that quit going?
I’m still going strong here and greatfully quit..Thanks mainly to
cogquit ideas..
roll call=everybody just pops in says hello and how doing. Haven’t
seen one in a while figured I’d make some noise. 
ion
Hi Ion,
And I thought it was just your caps key that was stuck 
It’s true though, do the work. When our beliefs (B’s) change, everything
else changes.
Thanks Ion,
Steve
I think I will be challenged this evening. We will be taking a trip
this weekend to help move someone but first we have to drive and
hour and half or so to go to a ‘funeral home visitation’ and then
drive five more hours to get to where we are going. I am sure I
will be fine until after the visitation and maybe an hour into the
trip but… after that I am going to be tired (at least in the past
this is my response to situations like this) and want a cig to help
stay awake although I guess I could sleep but as navigator is my
responsibility to make sure the driver does fall asleep, it will be
to dark to read or knit, music drives me batty after awhile… What
other ideas out there to help me combat this other that getting
coffee that will then interrupt my sleep when I can go to sleep?
I guess this is a ‘what if’
A. tired, getting cranky, brain fuzz starting to appear, shoulders
tense, feeling claustophobic from being locked into car, body
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Hi everyone!
I haven’t been posting much lately, but I’ve been here! The cog quit
approach really caught my interest. The whole idea makes so much
sense! I started out following this program with good intentions
read every part of the cog quit site, made some new friends at this
site who had the same concerns that I had, worked on my lists, etc.,
then a couple things came up that I wanted to address so my quit
would receive my full attention. But I’m back and have set my quit
date for November 4th … my Mom’s birthday … who suffered with
emphysema for many years.
I’ve been working on my ABC’s but need some help with the B1’s (or
maybe I don’t?) The ABC’s I’ve read seem to be much more involved
than mine. For example,
A - Bored at work Time is going too slowly my mind is sluggish
and I’m feeling very unmotivated.
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I would read that somewhere and think. Yes…
Can you believe it is Wednesday already and that makes it how many
days now with no cigs???? I think seven as in 777777777 as in one
week????? Is that possible? Did you think you could do that? Which
ABC do you use the most???
I understand the not going out to challenge the quit. I did that
also for a good solid week then I took my baby steps from my
protective little shell I had built. Hey.. Did you get your yard
raked up good???
For some odd reason,perhaps the good weather we have been enjoying
my little 20 minute bike rides are …. so relaxing and going to
have to wonder what I am going to do when weather gets bad. The
biking is new thing for me to do and wondering if you have an
outlet??
Thinking about you and all the others approaching quit times. Not
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Ummmm well…. I nagged you into a very successful quit didn’t I? :))
Good luck Pam, we’ll keep things warm for you.
Steve