Cognitive Quit Smoking

Something to consider…. as smokers, time spent in a car included
periods of withdrawal between cigs smoked. Those ‘withdrawals’ included the
normal antsiness that usually became irritability. It’s a tiny step from
antsy and irritable to “this person isn’t perfect and I just HAVE TO to
open my mouth and tell them”. Now that you’ve eliminated the periodic antsy
that comes with a fluctuating nic level, I’ll bet there’s a lot that isn’t
twisting your knickers.

I am one of the smokers who is using the cog quit before I actually quit. It
has drastically helped me cut back on smoking and I am putting the ABCs into
effect more rather than lighting up.
How do I go about setting a quit date and working toward it? Are there even
preparations that can be made or do I just quit when I reach the date?
India

I’m in a curious mood tonight.
Pam, Steve,
Do most people find/join this group before they quit, or after?
Word.

Is there a difference in the way men and women approach quitting?
My husband quit 5 years and 11 months ago, and says he just “quit.”
A male co-worker at work said the same thing. He just “quit” like it
was as easy as saying you will never enter a certain restaurant
because of a bad meal, or never eating another peanut butter cookie
because you got sick after eating them.
Women seem to come at it from a much more personal stance. My
husband thinks there are now more women smoking than men.
But, I went back to post # 4450 (looking for different topics that
haven’t come up in my short quit career) and found a guy named “Phil”
having a dickens of a time over his emotional attachments to smoking
and trying to figure out how to rationalize all this cognitive
quitting. He’s a very clever and witty writer. I recommend reading
some of his stuff just for the entertainment value.
And yet, the group is founded and continues to be moderated by a
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I was ready!! I had my ABC’s all lined up for my 3rd Saturday as an
ex-smoker. I had written down every trigger, every physical twinge,
and every emotion I could think of…I was ***ready***! But, not one
urge came. Not one.
Instead, I started realizing that I was able to get MORE done in less
time, feel better doing it and {{{{{{{STILL}}}}}}}} feel happy and
satisfied that I had accomplished so much. I got happy without
smoking!!
I put off a big portion of my Saturday chores since I quit, because
it was too hard to deal with all the urges and the depression I would
sense over the “death of my old friend, the cig”(yeah, some friend -
never gave me a moment’s peace.) Anyway, it’s been 3 weeks since I
ran the vacuum and dusted everywhere…I’ve been just getting by with
the basics.
But, the more I had procrastinated, the worse the house began to look
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Thank you all, Pam and Ion for the advice and the abc’s for this
situation. I will try and reroute my thinking, this has been
something that has gone unresolved for years. Have much thinking and
soul searching. see ya, truly Debo

A: upset with my mother
B: we are so different, she questions and doubts my deciion making
ability. i hate it makes me feel stupid like a child, i am all
tensed up and sweaty heart pounding and i’m really mad here.
C:smoke my brains out!!!!!
B1 ok to be different wish could have mutual respect, she won’t
change, i am not stupid, i like me
i’m not a baby so i don’t need to act like one. i can calm down here
breath normally and just let this whole mess go, i don’t have to
continue this conversation that is so negative. muscles loosening
up and calmer
C1i don’t have to smoke my brains out , get out of neg conversation
or change topic. once hang up get qhysical to burn off excess energy
build up.
A: hubby’s ex-wife at the door
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Wow, lots of posts to go through here…… I’ll be back in a little while and
reply to you all Pam

Hi all,
I haven’t post it for a while, kept quit and just doing
the work. Yep I still do ABC and even went back to
timer exercise which helps me a lot to stand back and
think and be aware of what I am feeling. On busy, crazy
days like last week it forces me to really take a step
back and evaluate the situation every hour before
Warren offers me something else. I noticed the timer
exercise does not take longer than a smoke and keeps me
aware of what is going on.
The closure ABC’s is a great idea and since I have to
make up one for tonight I might as well share it. It’s
not really a Thanksgiving advent where the guest go
home, but for the first time after I attempted to quit
(which is now over a year) I have friends over at my
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I mis-wrote the subject, pardon me, debo