Followup
Just a further note to add to my last.
Surprise, surprise, I stopped using the foundation statements, keeping
a log or doing any of the work that was asked of me.
I know exactly what the problem is………I stopped doing the work.
Okay, so it’s back to square one. I have printed out the timer sheet
and am starting on it immediately. I have also written out the
foundation statements as I know these are key for my success.
Thanks for being there for me (All of you)
Joy (Feeling more joyful)
February 2nd, 2007 at 7:14 pm
Hi Joy-
You ask “how does one get rid of that “Stinkin Thinkin” and remain positive
and focused???”
Spend a day, 8 -10 hours, making timer notes. You’ll spend that day paying
attention to your body and looking at effective ways to take care of it.
Whether or not you actually follow through with any of those ‘effective
ways’ is up to you. But I promise you you’ll have spent the day thinking
differently.
You’re talking about getting a ‘positive attitude’ together so you’ll have
the ‘want’ to take that first step, again, and toss your smokes and go for
the quit. When you understand why you lit each cig and recognize your
alternatives, it’ll be easier to choose to quit. Past that, being positive
is over hyped. (But then I’ve been accused of being a pessimist) Quitting
is an uncomfortable experience. We’re going to feel miserable. Fortunately,
taking care of our body cues can be done regardless of how lousy we feel
and whether or not we’re feeling ‘positive’. So ‘positive’ is optional.
As for staying focused, cognitivequitting is a simple structured program
that allows you to refocus whenever you find yourself ‘urgish’. Once you’ve
come around to a cognitive approach to your smoking, you can never again
smoke without being aware. You can’t get an ‘urge to smoke’ without being
aware. And you can’t ’slip’ without being aware. As soon as you become
aware, you’re obligated to choose… use the tools you’ve developed to
identify and deal with your body cues, or light up. It’s always a choice
and it’s always yours.
We can show you how to look at your smoking in a way that enables you to
take control. But it’s up to you to decide if you’re ready to do the work.
Steve